Sliding Doors

My fiance has a term for days and moments where a decision changes the direction of your life. He calls them sliding door moments. Today was a sliding door day.

It started with a wonderful group therapy meeting where I was able to share some of my story and perspectives and growth moments with a small group of women and we all came away inspired and edified. The women were glowing with light by the end of the meeting and I played an integral role in that. Not a bad beginning to the day. I realized something much bigger than me happened during that meeting and I received the impression that I had no idea the ripple effect I had just started. 

It reminded me of how, some years ago, I met with my stake president because I wanted to have an addiction recovery program a little closer to where I lived instead of having to drive so far away for meetings. That turned into thousands more people having access to the program and that man becoming the region supervisor of the program. He hadn't even heard of the program when I came to him. I was privileged to see some of the fruits of that sliding door moment. We'll see what today's moment brings.

And then today, I had a presentation at the DOVE center, the place that protected my children and me during our most terrifying phase of life and helped me secure my protective order and other resources to help us feel safe. I will be leading group sessions as well as working one-on-one with survivors who are currently in that dark space I once occupied. I'll be helping them find the light and helping them become empowered to liberate themselves from financial bondage and insecurity. This has been one of my dreams for a long time, to give back to that organization in some way, and this way will be lasting and profound and is very much needed. I will be able to give back so much more than monetarily, and it's thrilling to me.

Sliding doors opening.

Dreams coming true.

I'm working to keep expanding and not shrink in this. I'm tempted to allow my upper limits to try and keep me small. I've never taken up so much space and had such a voice that others are drawn to hear. It scares me. So I must do it, for my fears are my compass and I will never again allow my soul to be made quiet. 

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